I came across this earlier when I was deleting old blogs and copying to this new one.. It's from 3 years ago when my best friend was dying of her cancer. If only I thought the police would be interested - it's too late now I know, but even at the time it wouldn't have bee worth it as it was only our word against his and the vile family he is part of - his older brother told me once he had lung cancer and asked me so many questions about it as that's what my Dad died of. It was only a year or so later I found out he'd never had it and was asking me so he could pretend to other people he did have it, so he could fleece them of money. They are a despicable family.
The Police that is; very doubtful knowing what they are like where I live, but how I would love to be able to chat with them and tell them all that has been going on with D and that piece of shit that she was married to. If I was to contact them I think this is what I would write..
I have a rather odd query; or thing to share. I'm not sure and the reason I haven't gone down to a station is because I may well be wasting your time and it's easier to mail you first as you can walk away and deal with other things if you need to than if I was to come down and someone has to deal with me there and then and in one go. I also don't really want to get in to trouble for wasting police time (I believe I could get in to trouble for that?). Get on with it woman. I will have to give you some background details so this may be rather long winded. For that I apologise and hope you have a cuppa and some biscuits with you. Ok I'm wasting your time. Sorry but this is really hard because I'm not even sure there is anything wrong. Here goes. My best friend is currently battling cancer (in the past 2 weeks she has been told she's terminal). She is married to a vile creature (thankfully they have no separated) and I don't know why but a niggling voice in the back of my head is telling me that he was gradually overdosing her on the morphine she was given to help control her pain (phew.. there I've said it). He's a total control freak with a very aggressive personality who basically took control of her and her family. They only married in September 1010 after he came back to the UK from Canada (and I still believe he HAD to leave the country under some cloud of odd behaviour).
At the time my friends Mum was dying of cancer herself. Now stupidly they had a history before he left for Canada and she wasn't happy in the relationship she was in and before he came back they struck up a friendship again. This is where I think she got duped. He had nowhere to go when he came back to the UK. His parents (who are also vile and have sent some very nasty/threatening text messages to my friend) wouldn't take him in and he knew my friend had her own place and that with her mum being ill she was in a vulnerable position and I believe he used that (and her) to get him somewhere to live when he came back. No crime in that and it was her choice. At the time I thought him an ok kind of guy still. Then things changed.
Just recently a neighbour of hers walked into her house to find her writhing on the floor in absolute agony with him standing over her shouting abuse at her; thankfully the neighbour called an ambulance and she was taken into hospital, where she was told her kidneys have failed (something that can be caused by a morphine over-dose and he has control of her pain relief because he said he doesn't trust her with it).
I didn't hear anything until the Wednesday but apparently she had been admitted on the Saturday. She told me when I saw her this week that in the hospital when she came round and asked where she was he told her a hospital in the new forest. why he would do this is beyond me but I can only assume it was so none of her friends could visit; he had her phone and wouldn't hand it over and she was in no fit state at that point to argue with him - this is where another big lie comes in - when I asked him on the Wednesday why he hadn't phoned to let me know she was in hospital he told me he didn't have my number. Another LIE; he does have my mobile number, he also knows the name of my business so could have got the number. He had my best friends phone on him and she has my shop, home and mobile number stored on her phone, her daughter has my number. I am pretty much logged on to facebook 24.7 and at the time he was a friend of mine on there; my business also has a facebook page he is friends with so he had numerous ways to get hold of me.I always knew he was a bullsh**er but put that down to middle child syndrome and wanting to big himself up but didn't realise he was an out and out liar.
After this happened, my friends daughter took over and I believe the police were called to remove him from the property where a restraining order was taken out against him; that evening he called my home phone (proving he did in fact have my number) and was screaming abuse at me about her daughter. I finally hung up on him when he told me that her daughter "would be sorry" because he said when my friend died he was her next of kin and was therefore the one to organise her funeral; when I told him her daughter may have something to say about that, his exact words to me were "then I'll let her rot on a slab". This is a man that was meant to be madly in love with his wife saying this to me, one of her closest friends.
I truly believe (from the bullying and abuse my friend told me she was suffering at the hands of him and his parents - his mother threatened to beat her 9 year old son, and I heard the piece of shit husband himself once threaten to knock him out when he was doing nothing wrong (believe me if he was in the wrong I would have told him off)) that he was in fact trying to kill her off with a morphine over-dose that he would have made look as though it was her choice. YES, my friend was dying, but after he was gone, she fought with all she had to have as much more time as she could get, so there is no way she would have tried herself; just the fact of what he said to me about leaving her on a slab, and the fact the neighbour found him standing over her as she was writing on the floor in agony, prove to me he was trying to. Sadly, yes she was dying anyway and I will admit I am an advocate for euthanasia if that is what the dying person wishes, but
I DO NOT agree with attempted murder; no matter what the circumstances.
Sadly there was no proof that he was giving her additional morphine, and it was only our word against his so I never bothered to contact them; the fact that just 6 months after she died he had a new fiance and she moved into my friends home - the one he forced her to sign over to him; the one he had her daughter removed from just a week after her Mum had died - shows just what kind of vile creature he is.